Mirror Mirror, Why Do I Look Fat?
I had the following comment on my blog
I am post-surgery 4 years, and have gained back 20 lbs. But I
look fat. I have lost 135 lbs., but when I was losing I looked
thinner. What’s up with that?
This could be a number of things. When you are
losing weight rapidly, your muscles become slack. That is one of the
reasons why people are always telling weight loss surgery patients
that they should stop losing weight. It shows especially in the
face. Patients get a haggard look. After awhile the muscles firm up
a bit and the haggard look goes away. When you initially lost
weight, it may have appeared like more because of your haggard look.
That could be the reason, but it could be
something else as well. After weight loss surgery, as you near your
goal, you fall in love with your body and can’t believe that you are
a particular weight. You made it and life is grand! Then after a few
years, you become accustomed to your “new look,” and the critical
way of looking at yourself returns.
We seem to be perpetually unhappy with our
bodies. We are never pretty enough, busty enough, or thin enough. We
tend to be our own worst enemy. So your perception that you are fat
again may merely be the way you are looking at your body. There is
actually a term for it. It is called body dysmorphism. It is a
syndrome characterized by being excessively critical of our own
bodies. It can be very harmful if someone then diets or exercises
excessively to the point that they harm themselves.
I am not saying that you have a syndrome just
because you asked a simple question, but I am just pointing out the
extreme that people can go to.
I always recommend that patients have someone
take a picture of them. See if you can find a picture from when you
stopped losing weight and compare the two. Don’t rely on what you
see in the mirror. The can distort your image. That is why I always
wanted to bring home the mirrors from department stores. They always
made me look thinner. But more often than not, a mirror will add
Look at the photos and compare them. Also
check your BMI. If you are in the “normal” range weight, then you
are fine. If you are in the “overweight” range you may want to think
about working off some pounds – slowly. If you are in the obese
category, that is when you want to get serious.
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Weight Loss Myth Debunked
You’ve heard it. “Want to lose weight, then cut your calories by 500
per day and in a week you will have lost 1 pound.” That has been
drilled into us. It’s simple math, just follow it and your weight
issues will be solved. But it doesn’t work. Well for the short term
it does work, but then you stop losing weight. I know. I’ve been
there and no matter how hard I would try, I couldn’t get that scale
Here is why. There is a new study published in
the very prestigious journal, Lancet, that finally looks at that
formula and proves what we have known all along – it doesn’t work!!
The reason that it doesn’t work is that as you lose weight, your
metabolism slows, in fact it slows right away, and you end up losing
about half of what you had thought.
It is very difficult to lose weight, but if you
are struggling, at least you have an explanation why.
Hall, Kevin. “Quantification
of the effect of energy imbalance on bodyweight,” Lancet, v. 378,
issue 9793, Aug. 2011, p. 826-37.
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Oz may have taken over Oprah’s time slot, but fortunately, he did not
take over her attitude about weight loss surgery. In a recent
interview, Dr. Oz said, “a 50 year old who is 100 pounds overweight
has the same risk of dying as a 50 year old that has a solid cancer.
He goes on to say that surgeons will operate for the cancer, but are
performing about 1% of the gastric bypass surgeries as they should be.
I agree! Go Dr. Oz!!!
Facebook WLS Private Group
I am so excited about my new Facebook group,
called WLS Private Group. It is categorized
as a CLOSED group by Facebook. This does not mean it is closed
to new members. It is definitely open for new members and I hope
you will join. A CLOSED group in Facebook means that only members of
the group can read posts and comments. That provides members with
the privacy that what they are discussing cannot be seen by anyone
outside of the group membership.
The discussions in my WLS Private Group have
really been great. Within the past day, the discussions hav been
about dumping, weight regain, a new vitamin company, getting a
tattoo before surgery, journaling, and using a slow cooker.
Here are some comments from members:
“I love this site! I sure wish this was around when I was a new
post-op! I think I would be close to 300+ pounds off instead of
working my way to 250 off. I am learning so much as well.”
“I thank you for having this group. I read
everything every day.” Lora
“Isn’t this group wonderful? I have learned
more here than in months of going to a normal support group.”
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___________ is/are NOT an iron rich food?
2. If you do not get enough iron
A. your skin
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B. your eyesight
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C. you will feel
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D. you will have
A. are usually high in
B. provide energy
C. may cause heart disease
4. All of the following except
________are forms of carbohydrates
of the following are high in calcium, EXCEPT
A. vanilla yogurt
B. poached egg
C. low fat milk
D. leafy green vegetables
6. Most of the sodium in your diet comes
A. salt we add at the table
B. sodium that is added
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Scramble Breakfast Pita
Everyone seems to tire of the same breakfast every morning. Here is
something different to spice up your mornings. It is from Chef Dave’s 90
Ways to Ditch Your Diet.
Mexican Scramble Breakfast Pita
2 large eggs
¼ teaspoon black pepper
2 small whole wheat pitas
½ cup refried beans, warmed
¼ cup cooked died potatoes, warmed
½ cup shredded iceberg lettuce
1 large sprig cilantro, chopped
2 Tablespoons salsa
1. Scramble eggs with pepper in a non-stick pan until thoroughly
2. Fill warmed pita halves with warmed refried beans.
3. Top with warmed potatoes and shredded lettuce,
4. Add scrambled eggs, salsa, and garnish with cilantro
Makes 2 servings
Nutritional Information for each serving:
260 calories, 5 grams fat, 41 grams carbohydrates, 14 grams protein, 8
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Karen: A Shared
I want to offer Karen special
thanks for sharing this traumatic and hurtful experience with
us. If you know a healthcare professional, please share
Karen’s story with them. Let’s spread the word that treatment
like this is unacceptable! Here is her story:
First of all, thank you for all you have done to support and
educate people about weight loss surgery. I was in awe when I
noticed your web page about obesity sensitivity! I would like
to share my story with you.
Several years ago, before my weight loss
surgery, I was admitted to the hospital with chest pains. I
was carefully monitored and given something for the pain. One
of the medications they gave me was Ativan, and was supposedly
a very mild dose. Within minutes of being given the dosage, I
saw spider webs in front of my eyes and couldn’t speak or
move. This was the beginning of an eye opener about how
“professional caretakers” treat people.
I remember everyone standing around me
and trying to get me to respond. I couldn’t, but I could hear
and understand everything they were saying and doing. One
nurse was frustrated she couldn’t get an IV in me and said, “I
hate having to put IVs in such fat people. They irritate me!”
They took me to the area of the hospital
for stroke victims, because they were sure I had suffered a
massive stroke. One of the lab techs was sent to scan my leg
and carotid arteries for a possible clot. He pulled out his
cell phone, and told a friend that they should see the
“porker” he was expected to x-ray. He didn’t know when he
would be able to leave, because it would take him forever to
scan my arteries and then he kept laughing and saying, “you
should see her!” I was outraged and yet unable to communicate
this to anyone.
I gained a new appreciation from my
experience, because I learned these people are ignorant. I
never dreamed they would ever say anything like that, much
less in range of the patient. I felt empathy for those people
in comas, deaf, and otherwise ignorant to how the medical
community treats people they fear, because they don’t
understand. If I can ever do anything to help you with this
mission, please let me know!
Please continue helping others as you
have helped me. You have no idea how grateful I am that
someone understands and is doing something about it!
I love good news. If you have good news,
a success story to share, or inspiration, please send it to me
Barbara@wlscenter.com so that I can include it in future
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